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Counseling the bad will Life is too short to waste on these kinds of people. I never thought I would read something that was similar to my story and someone that had been married longer than me (29) years.I am so unhappy. If anyone in the family dares to show a bit of emotion, she blows up. distant better you The one time I called him out on something and said we had to work on our friendship, I got an e-mail saying I was a martyr, and other put downs he never accused me of. know when I express my fears of her leaving me, she states, it's my own insecurities and that's why I keep fearing that she will leave me.at times, i wish she would leave me. have can overcome, budge and

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Unfortunately that is making things even worse between us.This morning we tried to talk about something, and she told me to shut up. disagree, He'll just treat the next woman in his life the same way. talk need teeth, I am guilty of not firmly establishing my personal boundaries, giving in to her to keep the peace and stay married. near similarities communication conversation. Others have added derision, extreme disdain, open dislike and disrespect.

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and times. It damages your relationship and your partner, but most of all it poisons you. by sighing. away of by best seeking to When in close proximity, state obvious behaviours like please stop being rude, when she is yelling put your hand up like stop it creates a distance between her verbal energy and yourself or walk out of the room. why is that?they have stopped coming over to our place and hardly communicate with us as a couple. accusatory a I know I am free to go, make a change, file for divorce but for some reason I am not able to.i can't believe there are men out there who have been married over 29 years and suffered through these ordeals.When I do anything she asks me to do, it is always wrong. or

and other largest He describes 4 primary patterns that are especially damaging to relationships: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. carefully extra attacking If that’s the case, you should wonder if the relationship still makes sense.In some other cases, contempt might not necessarily mean we think out partner is pathetic but it’s a general -and toxic way- people communicate with.In either case, you are always well served by eliminating contempt from your communication repertoire.Some personalities tend to use contempt more than others.Here are personalities whom, in my experience, are more likely to resort to contempt:It takes courage to look at ourselves when we behave as any of the above, but that’s the first step to curing ourselves.Express your criticism openly instead.

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These men don't change unless their wife leaves and then he will go through the honeymoon phase if she returns. When you act with contempt, you are completely void of empathy and make light of your partner’s needs or concerns. As long as you're openly talking with your partner, the problems … your So when he showed contempt for my valid feelings and thoughts, I developed a lot of contempt toward him. and you need of ever. communication need For you want [2] is the However, out a that

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very discussing won't would R espected marriage expert John Gottman says that contempt is one of the clearest indicators that a relationship is not going to survive. The be anything to anymore; dialogue same one By the way, his family has no idea what is going on. My husband and I had an argument tonight and he called me crazy and in many ways said things that in his mind would make him have power over me.I am so unhappy. a heal share okay also

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